Imagine you have an important conversation coming up.
You’ve been thinking about it for three weeks.
You rehearse it in the shower.
You rewrite the email.
You imagine what your boss will say.
Then you imagine your response to that.
You Google some advice.
You decide you should be more confident.
Then you postpone the conversation another week.
Nothing about this is unusual.
But notice the social structure around the problem:
One person.
You have accepted it as a Me Problem.
What would change if you deliberately put other people around it?
A Six is not simply six people in a room — it’s a new peer-to-peer social structure
Getting six people together is easy.
Creating a group that becomes reliably useful is a different problem.
That is what The Six is designed to explore.
A Six aims for six people who agree to meet for 90 minutes once a week for six weeks.
The group uses a simple repeatable protocol. Responsibilities are shared. The same people return. Meetings have a known beginning and ending. Members can pass. Advice is given by consent rather than automatically.
Most importantly, there is a job to do:
Work on something real.
That makes The Six different from networking, a weekly hangout, a class or a conventional support group.
Put the problem in the middle
Return to that important conversation you were imagining.
Instead of asking six people, “What should I do?”, you might begin with:
Here’s what’s happening. Here’s what would be useful from you.
Then the Six works around the situation:
One person notices an assumption in your story.
Someone asks a question you had not considered.
Someone else role-plays so you can rehearse the conversation.
Another helps you make the request more specific.
Someone sees that you are solving a problem you were never actually asked to solve.
Nobody has to take over the problem.
You still decide what to do.
But you are no longer limited to what one brain can generate while sitting alone with itself.
And at the end, you might say:
Before next week, I’m going to have the first five minutes of the conversation.
Then you do it.
Next week, you come back and tell the group what happened.
That repeated loop matters:
Practice here → Take it out there → Bring back what happened.
Six is not the answer to everything
This part matters.
The goal is not to convert every Me problem into a Six problem.
Some problems are solved best in Solo Mode.
Some problems only need one other person.
The skill I’m interested in is more basic:
Notice the configuration before you automatically accept it:
Would it be useful to handle this myself?
Would one other person help?
Would several people bring something different?
And if a small peer group would help, do I know how to create one that can actually work together?
That last question is what Form a Six is about.
The underlying capability is the important part: consciously choose who belongs around a situation instead of letting “I’ll handle it” make the decision automatically.
What are we testing?
The first Sixes are helping answer very practical questions.
Can peers use cards and agreements without needing a trained facilitator?
Does the structure feel supportive—or merely technical?
Will people actually come back for six weeks?
Does working on real situations change what somebody does next?
Do people begin using what they learn outside the group?
And, eventually, could someone who has experienced a Six easily create another one?
We don’t know yet.
That is why this is a public experiment rather than a finished program.
Ready to try?
If you already have people in mind, go to:
→ START HERE: Everything you need to Form Your Six and book your first meeting together
If you want help figuring out whom to invite, how to ask them or how to get from “interesting idea” to an actual first meeting:
→ Join the next Form a Six Fireside Chat
A Six does not begin when six people say the idea sounds interesting.
It begins when they put a date on the calendar and meet.
I hope you join us and try a Six yourself!